Whether you are seeking help with anxiety, depression, compulsive relationships with food or other substances, unhealthy interpersonal relationship patterns, or bad habits you can’t seem to break, our proprietary process that leads you to self-healing can help.
We believe that a successful therapeutic relationship makes you feel safe. But we don’t think an empathetic ear within a safe environment is enough. We want you to take possession of every tool we have to offer. Our goal is to get to know you as you introduce us to your struggles. Then, we will help you customize the following systems to your personal situation:
No matter what your situation is, know this: every relationship develops to a place where the things you need most from your partner are the most difficult for him or her to give you. At the same time, what your partner needs most from you is the hardest for you to give. This is normal relationship development and it happens because every human being unconsciously seeks a partner who matches unresolved emotional patterns from the past; including a difficult childhood history and/or past unhappy relationships. We seek someone who is similarly wounded because we are looking for a safe, loving relationship where we will be able to be loved in a way that heals those old wounds. At first, this “match” feels good. Like a soul connection. Simpatico! The deeply connected feeling comes from a visceral awareness that our match understands us. Our wounds are similar. Our life stories bring an easy empathy. But over time, those wounds that initially attracted us act in the background of our lives until we find ourselves wondering why we chose this person in the first place!
Parenting post-adoption can bring with it special challenges that often aren’t addressed by typical parenting support resources because, most likely, the child you have welcomed into your heart has experienced trauma and has had to learn to cope with the circumstances which led to disruption of his or her biological family. As such, your child will likely display behaviors that don’t make sense to you. The truth is, if your child has already experienced separation, this trauma alone will impact your relationship with your child. Your child may not respond to your loving attempts to nurturing in the way you would expect. Your child may have tantrums or respond intensely without warning. You may believe you are making progress toward trust, only to find that your child suddenly withdraws from you in fear. These behaviors and others are normal responses for a traumatized child. At The Center for Healthy Relationships, we are committed to equipping you with the knowledge and tools you need to increase the likelihood that your child will heal in your love.
After you have experienced trauma, it can be very hard to “walk away” from that experience and not allow it to affect you on a daily basis. Although many people believe that they can just “put it behind” them, a majority of those people discover that’s not so easy to do. If you struggle because of trauma, we can help. Please read what we present here to help you understand why trauma has changed your life and what you can do to recover – and take your life back.
Trauma takes many potential forms. One of the most common ways it happens is through the course of repeated carelessness by neglectful or abusive parents. For those who experienced this during childhood, trauma in relationship to others seems to be an ongoing pattern. Trauma also comes via natural or man made disasters. You may have been in an accident or someone may have done something to intentionally harm you. Maybe something terrible happened as a result of something you without intending to cause harm to anyone.