Have you ever had the experience of allowing someone else to tell you what to do? At that moment, did your intuition whisper that you knew a better way . . . . but you didn’t listen?
Yeah. That happened to me, too. When I decided to STOP publishing my podcast.
The truth is, the MOST POWERFUL gift I can give you aside from teaching you HOW to use the tools to heal yourself and your relationships (the work I do in my practice at The Center for Healthy Relationships) is the realization that other people heal.
The answers are within you. The revival of my podcast is focused on helping you realize that for yourself. Please enjoy the show . . . .
Oh my goodness, I am so excited to be bringing my podcast back, and to be bringing you Episode 7 of Listen To Your Body Heal Your Life!
Everybody has their own journey, and I certainly have mine. As I’ve been on this journey, one of the things that I’ve done is: I’ve listened to other people! I knew for sure that I had some messages that I needed to bring to you to make your life better, to help you understand how to navigate in this crazy world that we live in.
And then I started following a business coach who said, “If that podcast isn’t making you any money, stop doing it.”
So I stopped. Against my better judgment, because I actually love being here with you. I have some very exciting things to tell you today. I want to tell you why I brought the podcast back. That’s the first thing.
I’m also going to update you on my personal health issues, because if you have followed my podcast from the beginning, and from the beginning is only five episodes ago. It’s been probably a year since my first episode. The last one was published in June of 2018.
I was starting at the beginning of the episode with health updates on my own health journey, right? If we’re talking about Listen To Your Body Heal Your Life, then what is the health of the host like?
I’m going to update you on that today, and then I’m going to introduce to you my new format of Listen To Your Body Heal Your Life.
Let me tell you what was happening when I first developed my podcast and decided to bring it out into the world. I have had this push inside myself to actually be going bigger, to be doing more, and to be influencing more lives.
I have podcasted in the past, and my podcast was successful for helping victims of domestic violence turn things around. If you actually have an interest in some of those episodes from my domestic violence podcast, I actually am giving those away for free. You can reach out to me at email@example.com, and I will format them, and send them to you at no obligation.
But here’s the deal. When I first started working on the podcast, the idea wasn’t fully developed, I just knew that it works. And so, I knew I wanted to use the platform, I’d used in the past, but I found that always talking about the problems and the solutions for domestic violence was draining to me, physically and spiritually. Spiritually, essentially, but everything is connected, as you know.
I knew I had a message and mission, but I hadn’t really quite found it. And in the meantime, I continued to do my work. I continued to see the powerful reality that listening to the body leads to greater well-being for my clients.
And in my own life, it’s very interesting because around the same time I quit doing the podcast in June, when that was my last episode, I had this thing come up in my body. Anytime I was wanting to move forward with my online projects, whether it was creating courses or podcasting, there was this thing came up in me that was really old, and it was: “I can’t do it. It’s too hard for me.”
And as I listened to my body, I listened in my body history, which I don’t know if I’ve talked about that, but I’m sure I will be talking about it more in upcoming episodes. But as I listened to my body history, I found where, “You can’t do it, it’s too hard for you,” came from in my own history, and replaced that with, “I do hard things, and hard things are fun for me.”
I was actually able to continue doing my own deeper work while wondering, really, “Where is my podcast going to go? Where am I going to take the next level of my business?”
As I’m brainstorming, I’m asking my clients and asking myself, “What is the transformation? What is the transformation that’s happened in my own life, and what is the transformation that I have allowed my clients to achieve?”
Because I see time and time again using my tools that my clients have not just overcome one little problem here or there. They have made significant changes, which have led to significant, phenomenal, transformative growth in their life.
I’m one of those therapists who says, “Oh, gosh, it’s not enough to ask you, ‘How do you feel about that?’ Or, ‘What do you think about that?'”
I don’t think that’s enough. I think, really, therapist has to have walked their own path and done their own healing work. When that’s happened, then your therapist is capable of guiding you on a transformation path that is maybe more than just getting past pain and able to help you do your day-to-day life, but actually getting you into a space where you’re thriving.
My clients have achieved some incredible things, incredible things, awe-inspiring things. So I started asking them, asking myself, asking people whose lives have changed based on the work they’ve done with me. Here’s what I realized. Here’s what they told me. I give them the power. I gave them the power, permission. I empowered them to become who they really are.
Think about that for a second. Giving you the power to become who you really are. I started digging into that deeper. What does it mean, really? Well, from my own history, I know that what comes up for us, when we want to be who we really are, what stops us is we get fear. We start to doubt ourselves. We start to hesitate. We get these glimpses of what we could do and who we could be, and then that gets followed by the fears, the “No, you can’ts,” the “That’s too hard for you.”
What I’m able to successfully do is help my clients transform themselves, give them permission, and empower themselves to become who they really are. That’s when Awe-Thentically You! was born. I’m so excited about Awe-Thentically You! because now there’s a platform. Now my message is clear. Now I understand exactly what it is that I’m doing for the world.
I’m helping you to release fear, pain, and doubt that prevents you from being your authentic self. I started my Facebook group where I teach every day, and my influence is being spread. I’m reaching more people. In that group, people’s lives are changing every single day. It feels so good that it’s empowering me and it’s propelling me forward in my desire to give more, to impact more people, to change the lives of more people.
I was talking with a friend of mine yesterday, and we were talking about this concept of trauma, and what happens in the world. Right now our cultural conversation really is … It stops short of healing. What it’s doing, like with the women’s marches, with everything that we’re talking about, we’re identifying who the perpetrators are. We’re calling everybody a narcissist. We’re encouraging people of the world to recognize where the dangers are, but I don’t hear anybody calling out to encourage you to do your inner work.
If I know where every villain is, if I know where every dangerous corner is, if I know where every potentially abusive person is, cool. Now I know where I should be looking in fear so that I can go and hide.
But if I know what I need to do to shift myself away from fear and into empowerment, then guess what? Those scary people in those scary corners in those scary experiences don’t matter to me anymore.
Why? Because I know how to keep myself safe, but I’m not moving from a place of self-protection and fear. I’m moving from a place of joy and vitality and love for myself, and a sense of exploration, and a sense of willingness to try new things and talk to new people and take risks.
But my fear is that our cultural conversation about victimization and who’s doing what and who did what to whom is missing the very important vital piece of, what do I do about that now? How do I move myself out of fear and into empowerment in my own life?
That’s a little bit like, yes, I’m soapboxing a tiny bit. Yes, I recognize that, but I hope it resonates for you because I am just on fire about it, and so excited to be back here sharing these things.
Let me tell you the second thing that I wanted to go over today when I’m talking about coming back to Listen To Your Body Heal Your Life, and having it connect, and the intersection with the other work that I’m doing in my Facebook group. It’s not just a Facebook group, too. I want to say that. It’s not. It’s not. It’s a community. It’s a movement. I want to set fire … I’m back to this. I want to set fire in you to get you to realize that you can become your very best self. That power is inside your hands.
It’s starting with the Facebook group, yes. It’s also starting with this podcast, but we are going to be doing live events. I’m going to do workshops. Actually, I’m in Pasadena, California, and I’ll be doing live workshops monthly. I’m also going to, in my Facebook group, I do live Q&A. I want us to be a community of people who believes in what is possible beyond where we feel stuck.
Okay, so I’ll take a breath because I am passionate about that, and I already want to be giving you some health updates. I went back to the vision for the future. I hope that resonates for you, but I’m going to keep myself to my notes, and that is my health journey. Because if you’ve listened to the first five episodes of Listen To Your Body Heal Your Life, you have heard my own health journey and what I’ve been doing to try to recover from the effects of life, the effects of trauma, the effects of, gosh, long term anxiety.
And so, here it is. I am going to give you my updates because it’s really, actually, I’m pretty pleased with it. Everyone on this journey for healing the body, listening to the body and healing it, you should know two things.
One is that emotional wellbeing and health is connected very much to physical wellbeing and health. I’ve seen it time and time again that as we heal emotionally, the body also heals. I think also what that does when we heal emotionally is it fine-tunes our ability to listen to our body and to hear what’s actually coming from the body rather than what’s coming from old trauma, if that makes sense. That’s the first thing to know, it fine-tunes.
The second is that this is a trial and error process. You’ve heard me talking about that I removed myself from the synthetic thyroid medication, that I had been on this trial and error process where I was using magnesium supplementation.
Well, I went and found a functional medicine doctor. She encouraged plant-based foods and reducing of … I eliminated for a while. I’m not perfect at it … processed foods, did lots and lots and lots of blood work, discovered that, yes, my thyroid needs support, but instead of taking the synthetic levothyroxine, which can lead to heart problems, I actually am taking now a natural desiccated thyroid, which I discovered immediately started making impact on the way I feel in my energy levels and reduction of pain in my body.
But in the blood work, all of that blood work that we did, we also found out that genetically I have a marker turned on in my genes called tumor necrosis factor, which means that my body is hypersensitive. It wants to take anything it can take to turn what I put in my body into inflammation. It also means that I have a higher risk of cancer.
What do they say about tumor necrosis factor when it’s positive? They say you should eliminate alcohol, you should reduce refined sugars, and processed foods. That first created a lot of fear in me and super, super adherence to the protocol of super clean eating.
But now I’m several months out from that diagnosis, and I fall off the wagon from time to time. And I’m like, “Okay. So, yeah, I have a positive gene for tumor necrosis factor. Well, why doesn’t that scare me anymore?”
So, actually, I’m in the point of my own process of looking deeper at creating healthy patterns not based in fear, same thing I just talked about. If we do it based in fear, it creates a different energy in us than if we do it based on logic and understanding where we’re coming from and reduction of triggers and moving forward in love.
That’s where I am with that. I did have an emotional rebellion where I got mad because I didn’t want my body dictating what I could or couldn’t eat. But that’s funny, too, because the reality is all of us should be listening to our body when we eat one thing or another to determine whether that thing is good for us or not.
It’s still a work in progress, but I’m feeling much more settled, grounded, positive about the whole process. Really, I can. It’s hard, but, yes, I can.
The other thing is that on January the 5th of this year, I was in my office actually making coffee when my heart started beating really fast. This is something that’s happened to me since I was in my late 20s, but it’s gotten progressively worse over time.
I know, because of the experience that happened a couple of years ago, that when my heart starts racing like that, I need to call 911. So I’m alone at work, heart starts racing, paramedics show up, they put an IV in my arm, and pumped a medication called adenosine. The effect of adenosine is that it stops your heart. Point blank, stops your heart. So it stopped my heart, and then it started again at a normal rate, and they recommended that I go to the hospital.
So I went to the emergency room, they put me on a medication for my heart called CARDIZEM. It’s a blood pressure medication. I hated it. It felt awful, but it was taking that medication for the rest of my life, or having another cardiac ablation procedure. See, I’d had a cardiac ablation procedure two years ago after a similar episode that lasted two hours, and shortly after the procedure when I went for my post-op appointment cardiologist, I told him that I was still having symptoms, and he said, “We can go back in.”
And I said, “No.”
In the last two years, I have had symptoms, a lot of them, but all of them lasted for less than a minute. And so, on January 5th, when it went on for 20, it’s a really scary thing to have your heart beating that fast and that hard for that long. I’d never really treated it because I believed that it was anxiety. It wasn’t anxiety.
It’s really important if you have something that you think is a mental health issue to go check it out physically to make sure that it’s not a physical problem. But I didn’t want to have the ablation.
I actually went in on February 11th to have it done, and I was so scared. I’d done it before, so you would think I wouldn’t be scared, but I was so scared. I did not want to be there. I was saying it, and tears filled my eyes up into the very moment that the anesthesiologist knocked me out.
Long story short, my heart looks very, very healthy, but the procedure lasted four hours. At the end of four hours, my cardiologist said that he had burned enough of the nerves that if he burned anymore of it, I would have ended up on a pacemaker.
But here’s what happened after. From the moment I woke up from the procedure, there was an absence of a chest pain that I’ve had for a really long time. The chest pain was gone. I always thought that chest pain was asthma.
Here’s what else happened. Sometimes when I’m sitting with my clients in my office, I have trouble sitting still, like I feel restless in my body. I actually also have problems with getting very sleepy and having difficulty staying alert sometimes in session. I also was getting very, so many cramps in my feet. Remember I said that in the previous episodes, and I said, “It’s magnesium.”
No, it was my heart. And so, my energy level has changed. I’m so freaking pink. My fingers are pink. After the surgery, my husband looked at my legs and he goes, “What’s the matter with your legs?”
It’s because they were that kind of swarthy kind of look that you get when you have lots of circulation in an area. He thought I was looking bruised. No, that’s me with circulation.
I’ve had people tell me now I don’t look like a vampire, or that I look much more vibrant. My skin looks healthier. And so, it’s interesting thing. We keep looking, we keep looking, we keep searching in this trial and error process, and I found it. It was my heart problem underlying other problems.
I still swear by the Myers’ Cocktail that I’m able to get from my functional medicine doctor, and get it about once a month because it just helps me feel good. I’ve used it once since my heart procedure. I also used it to help me overcome a cold, but here’s the issue. When there’s something going on in your body, if you’ve listened to the ACEs study, or if you are a person who’ve had lots of trauma, what I’ve seen is that often goes with lots of chronic health issues, lots of ongoing pain.
The body manifests the pain that happens in a way that makes us feel like we’ll never be well, but I’m here to tell you keep at it. I didn’t stop exploring. I did not trust traditional medicine because I really feel like traditional medicine will give you medication to mask symptoms, to make symptoms go away. They just target symptoms, not underlying problems.
I didn’t really trust traditional medicine. I still don’t, because functional medicine really looks for underlying causes. But traditional medicine, that cardiologist in that high-tech cardiac lab healed my life. He healed my heart in a way that I could’ve never imagined. Things that are happening for me that weren’t happening before connected to my heart in a way I never would have imagined.
I’m feeling a hundred percent better, feeling healthy, energized, and really healthier than I’ve felt in my entire life, and now I’m ready to continue with my life purpose.
One of the things that’s been a conflict for me in the past has been a concern because I knew, I had a picture in my head of the life vision, and at the same time, I also had a very great awareness that I didn’t have the energy. I didn’t feel well enough. I couldn’t follow it through the way I wanted to because I wasn’t well.
So, now I’m ready, and now I’m back. I had a recent realization, and it was in talking to some friends of mine who are also on a journey of making the world a better place, is that if I’m going to have a bigger impact, I have to pick up my podcast again, but add a twist to the original format.
So here it is, let me tell you about the new format. I’m really, really excited about this. Here’s my realization. It is that one of the most powerful experience that I can give you to help you along your own journey is to introduce you to other people who’ve done it. Regular people, people who’ve made transformations from pain to their authenticity.
It makes me think about … I was in the room of a coach, who I no longer work with because I don’t think every coach who’s out there is completely ethical. I was in a room full of people who, some of them were saying that they were successful in online business. They were talking about doing an online business while they traveled the world. They were talking about making it, but this was the first time I had experienced that whole, “Oh my goodness, I’m not the only one” experience.
I had all of these people around me who were making it, or wanting to make it. In truth, I don’t know how many of them actually did, who were being honest, who actually were making it the way they said they were making it. I don’t know, but here’s what I do know. I sat there in this room of just over a hundred people, women my age. I had this false belief before I sat in that room that said, “Well, I’m a woman in my 50s. I’m too old to make a difference.”
It makes me laugh now because it sounds ridiculous, but it was my thought pattern. I’m too old to make a difference. But here I sat in a room of other women, and most of them were near my age, and that was a powerful shift for me.
Now, I don’t know how many of them were honest about what they were doing or honest about the level of success they have because I think there’s a lot of dishonesty out there.
And to be honest with you, I’m just launching my online business, but I do have a successful in-person business where I help people every day. Not every day, I take Sunday and Saturday afternoons off, and now I’m taking Mondays off, but I regularly help people change their lives. I know I’m successful at that. I’m making a living at it.
And now I’m ready to take this to the next level and impact you. But I want you to know what it’s like to hear someone else who might be struggling exactly the way you struggle, but who’s stepped across that threshold from, “I’m in pain,” to, “I’ve found a way to become my authentic self, to grasp and hold onto who I really am in spite of what I’ve been through.”
I have a lineup of interviews. This is going to be a weekly episode to encourage you, so that you can hear it for yourself that other people can do it. I think one of the worst things that happens to us after we’ve had trauma is we feel alone. We think that we’re the only one.
I think that’s where the power of the women’s march comes in. I think that’s the power of where the Me Too movement came from. I think it’s the power of the strength in numbers of people yelling in the streets that it happened to them, too. We have to move beyond anger. We have to move into solutions, and that’s what I’m going to do in this podcast.
I’m lining up the next couple of weeks. I’ve got interviews lined up for you about how to overcome us.
One of my clients … One of my clients, she’s not a client. That’s the other thing to know is that the people I’m going to interview in this podcast will not be clients of mine. They are people who I’ve discovered in my journey who have done amazing things, but they’re people just like you and me.
One of the interviews that’s coming up is someone who has put herself in remission from a serious health issue, like a serious chronic autoimmune problem. Also, somebody who has found how to live in happiness after a serious loss.
I also have a couple of friends who are wonderful, beautiful people who I haven’t invited yet, but I’m sure they will come on, who have done things like overcome cancer, be caregivers of cancer, who have just really not allowed those things to form their identity, but have created identity beyond the adversity.
I’m also looking to build a community of powerful men and women that know that we can overcome and release pain, self-doubt, and fear to step into our own authenticity.
I’m so excited for this journey. I’m so excited to invite you along. I’ll tell you that if you’re interested in joining, go on Facebook to Awe-Thentically You! It’s spelled like this because when you actually achieve it, you find so much awe in living. It’s spelled A-W-E, dash, Thentically You, so it’s Awe-Thentically You! I’ll put the way it’s spelled correctly and a link to the Facebook group in the show notes.
I also want to ask you that if you know someone who has done something transformational in their life, in spite of terrible odds, that should be on this show, that you would love to see interviewed, that you know has a message that needs to be taken out to the world, have them reach out to me or reach out to me and give me their name at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I am so excited to have you on this journey with me. Until next week, keep listening to your body because you can heal your life and become your authentic best self. Thanks for listening.