This post talks about personal and professional experiences with online EMDR. If you'd like to read a study showing the impact of this method of therapy via telehealth, click here. The Overwhelming Effects of Childhood Trauma As a therapist who is also a survivor of childhood trauma, I’m acutely aware of how overwhelming Complex PTSD can be. …
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When Trauma Shows Up In Your Relationship
Trauma. It can be a two-edged sword. When it pops up where it doesn't belong, it feels like a crisis but offers tremendous opportunity for healing. The original trauma caused pain, then it can hurt over and over again . . . every time something we see or hear or feel reminds us of the original pain brought on by the original trauma. The brain …
Overcoming Trauma May Seem Impossible. It isn’t.
If I look at the trauma I’ve had in my life, there is so much of it that without hope that I could heal it - ALL OF IT - I might as well have curled up in a ball in the corner and given up on life! There’s more, but we can save those details for later . . . :) The story of my fear of dogs ended in a stand-off with a chihuahua. I was 30 …
Finding Your Relationship “Sweet Spot” – Video and Transcript
Hello, I'm Tamara Ridge, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Director at the Center for Healthy Relationships. And today, I'd like to talk to you a little bit about finding your ‘sweet spot’ as a couple. And I want to get you to think about your relationship a little bit, think about the history of your relationship and how you got to be …
Getting Comfortable with Discomfort
Hi there! It's Tamara Ridge again. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the director of The Center for Healthy Relationships. It is Saturday morning and I've already been at The Couple’s Conference for 2 days. I'm sitting again in front of this beautiful picture window in my hotel room and it's 8:30 in the morning. The courses haven't …
When You Want To Change Your Behavior
This post is about changing your behavior. If you want to know about changing your behavior in your relationship, click here. What Drives Unwanted Behavior? Behavior change can be hard, especially when you want to change something that you have been doing in a certain way for a really long time. When it’s time to switch things up, many people …
